Read an article (well technically only the last paragraph) by a pastor where he basically said that we must only surround ourselves with positive energy, so that we can live positively. In order to do that, he only surrounds himself with positive people and avoiding having any conversations with people who are negative. Recently a friend said almost the same thing- that she is afraid of associating with people who are easily depressed. I can understand how hard it is to be around people who are always complaining, whiny, moody, etc, yet at the same time, do we leave these people in the lurch? And just let them stew in all that negativity? The Pastor said that it is easy to get affected by such people but why can't we let our positive energy influence them? 

One day we may be the ones who are down and need someone else to lift us up. 

On another note was talking to a gf over dinner yesterday and she was having second thoughts about marriage. Till this day, I am not sure where my stand is on such issues. Sometimes the lines between love, responsibility, and commitment are blurred. Are we with someone out of love or out of a sense of responsibility/duty or for sentimental reasons? 

When love dies, do we continue to keep on going because we have made our commitment to one another? 

I wonder which is more cruel (whether to the other party or yourself) - to stay with someone out of a sense of duty even though you know your heart is no longer in it, or to leave someone and thus, breaking all promises of commitment?